This morning, I was talking to a colleague, who is constantly stressed out. He is a good foot-soldier, yet is often plagued by his so-called-personal problems. Every now and then he gets a call, and then he goes into a huddle with himself and his productivity gets lower, by the day. Immaterial of how much you try to talk to him, he likes to dwell in his problems and he feels complete only when he has a problem on hand! All of us have gone through this stage at some point of life or the other.
Why do we make our problems grandiose?
Why do people like to believe that they are the Atlas’ of the world, and that the world goes round ’cause of their ability to handle or address an issue. Why do people believe that they are the axis of someone’s world !
Will these same people believe that they are indeed the Atlas of THEIR own world. Will they believe that in reality they are the axis of THEIR own world and hence must make efforts to remove themselves out of problems and seek new solutions to make THEIR world a better place for themselves? I doubt.
Because most of us are comfortable with our problems. We really don’t want solutions. We are afraid that we may feel left out. less important and jobless if all our problems got solved one day. Unconsciously we welcome situations that are emotionally draining on us. We live in the grand conviction that we are “solving” things for others.
And that’s precisely why we don’t like to alter the status quo of our lives either. We like to marinate and dwell in sorrow and negative emotions. We are very amusing folks. I’ve never figured out why a few of us develop such an attitude….hope you are not one of those. 🙂
When you have a problem, choose to stand out of the issue, get objective and arrive at solutions. Choose to make life much more meaningful.
Hasan Mohammed Jinnah 
rather than thinking of the solution to a problem no a day people are adjusted and comfortable with the problems and settle down there …….encounter new problems which will make you strong ….thank you for your nice thought process….